For example, if a woman who’s with her boyfriend or husband of 2 years and who treats her very well, never hits her, etc, decides one day to steal all of his belongings, money, etc and in the end, makes him virtually homeless. She did this b/c of greed and after he finds out about this, he argues with her, and in anger, she slaps her face. Should she jail him for that? My folks said no, since first, he has no history of violence from the past, and second, jailing him might anger him more and might make him want to hurt her worse when he gets out. Besides, holding him in a cell like an animal around all those crazy ppl will make him often harder and cold, and he’ll have a criminal record, and thus, it’l be harder for him to get a job once he’s out, and third, he’s not one to hit someone out of mere hatred or anger, and this case, where she hurt him so much financially, where he’s left with nothing, is a severe form of disrespect, and we often do things out of impulse, and thus, he’s not a criminal that needs to be jailed. lastly, he’s emotionally hurt from the loss of trust, so calling the cops on him might make him want to hurt her more at the moment. We must consider the seriousness of her actions against him too. Not all instances of hitting will automatically mean he’ll be a chronic abuser and in extreme cases like these, it’s best to settle it by yourselves than to involve the cops. On a side note, even calling the cops on him will NOT automatically make him go behind bars, esp not if he left no marks on her face from the slap, and also b/c if we jailed everyone for a slap, half of the US would be in jail! It’s fruitless here. Is this good marital advice from my folks? I say yes, you? Why?


